Parents just tell you to suck it up, or to talk to a teacher, which does no good. It sucks, but I learned the hard way that I was just going to have to suffer through school.
I think it's because parents really don't realise how bad it is. I couldn't have been loved more by my family, and I was still told to "grow a thick skin" and "boys will be boys" (and if that's the case, what was the girls' excuse?) and other platitudes like that. Even when parents are bullying survivors themselves, it's so far in the past for them that they don't see it any more. Or maybe that's all bullshit, because I sure do remember it.
My kids were raised that saying something unkind to another person was right up there with lying and stealing in Mom's Book of Bad Things. Sure, they rolled their eyes at me sometimes, but they listened because I wouldn't shut up about it, and also because they knew I'd been on the recieving end of the same sort of unkindness. If parents can just be shown exactly how damaging bullying is, maybe things will get better.
Things don't seem to have improved much since I was a kid; it's even worse, I think, because of the whole cyber-bullying thing.
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Date: 2007-12-05 04:17 am (UTC)I think it's because parents really don't realise how bad it is. I couldn't have been loved more by my family, and I was still told to "grow a thick skin" and "boys will be boys" (and if that's the case, what was the girls' excuse?) and other platitudes like that. Even when parents are bullying survivors themselves, it's so far in the past for them that they don't see it any more. Or maybe that's all bullshit, because I sure do remember it.
My kids were raised that saying something unkind to another person was right up there with lying and stealing in Mom's Book of Bad Things. Sure, they rolled their eyes at me sometimes, but they listened because I wouldn't shut up about it, and also because they knew I'd been on the recieving end of the same sort of unkindness. If parents can just be shown exactly how damaging bullying is, maybe things will get better.
Things don't seem to have improved much since I was a kid; it's even worse, I think, because of the whole cyber-bullying thing.